It’s not uncommon for many of my new coaching clients to come to me frustrated, when they first start the process of learning to manifest and using the Law of Attraction, because they aren’t able to manifest what they want as quickly or as easily as they want. They try to be positive and focus on the things they want and they just can’t get into the groove of attracting that new client, much needed money, or the great news is that usually caused by small mistakes that can be easily tweaked.
Here are three common mistakes that people make when trying to consciously manifest using the Law of Attraction.
If you’ve been struggling to manifest your dreams, see if any of these roadblocks apply to you. With just a little bit of tweaking, you may find that your ability to consciously manifest improves dramatically.
1. Going Too Big: When you first learn about the process of manifesting, it may be tempting to immediately try to manifest your biggest dreams, like earning ten thousand dollars, the love of their life or owning a brand new luxury car. However, our biggest dreams are usually the ones we are furthest away from energy wise. That’s why big dreams are so big- they feel almost unbelievable! Trying to achieve an “almost unbelievable” dream is very challenging. This is not because it’s impossible or hard for the universe to deliver it, but rather because you don’t believe that it can happen! If you don’t believe it can happen, it isn’t going to happen. You must first find a way to believe.
It’s much easier to start out by trying to manifest little things because you won’t be so hung up on the outcome. After seeing the small things show up, you will start to gain confidence in your ability to deliver big things. With practice, the big dreams will start to seem possible.
2. Worrying about the how: For your dream to come true, you must let go of it and allow the universe to bring it back to you in the best possible way; typically with the least resistance. Insisting that your dream comes true in a very specific manner adds stress to your vibe. Your attempt to control the situation will cause you anxiety, and anxiety is a form of resistance that keeps your dreams from manifesting.
For example, if you want to have more money, please don’t decide that the only way this can happen is for you to win the lottery. Allow the universe to decide how the wealth comes back to you; maybe you’ll get a promotion at work, pick up a big new client, find a valuable collectible at a garage sale, or perhaps you find an envelope full of cash on the street. Anything is possible! Be receptive to all of the possibilities. You must trust that the universe will deliver your dreams in the easiest and most beneficial way. Don’t cut yourself off from the best possible plan! Know what you want, but allow it to come the way it needs to come. You have to go with the flow if you want the Law of Attraction to work in your favor.
3. Improper use of affirmations: Affirmations are a powerful way to bring your desires to you quickly. The words composing the affirmation, automatically and involuntarily, bring up related mental images into the mind, which could inspire, energize and motivate. Repeating affirmations, and the resultant mental images, affect the subconscious mind, which in turn, influences the behavior, habits, actions and reactions.
For those who have never heard of an affirmation, it is simply a short, powerful statement that you tell yourself repeatedly to direct your thoughts in a positive direction.
For example, “I am loved,” “things always go my way,” or “I am wealthy and abundant” are all positive affirmations you could use to direct your thoughts. Affirmations can work wonderfully, but only when they are used properly. For example, if you are broke right now, telling yourself “I am wealthy and abundant” will probably not make you feel good. If anything, it will amplify your feelings of being broke, because you feel like you’re lying to yourself. If you struggle with money, then all this affirmation will do is remind you that you don’t have as much of it as you want. If an affirmation doesn’t make you feel good, please do not use it! It will not work if it makes you feel guilty, anxious, angry or depressed because when you have these emotions you are moving in the wrong direction.
Feelings like this indicate that you are focused on not having your dream. If you are focusing on not having your dream, the universe will continue to bring you a reality where you don’t have your dream. Instead, make a habit of only using affirmations that actually AFFIRM true blessings in your life. Going back to our example, instead of affirming the wealth and abundance you don’t have, you could affirm the small financial blessings that you do have. So, perhaps the next time a you find a dollar in the street or a friend buys you lunch you could affirm “the universe brought me money” or “people are taking care of me today.” These are affirmations that you could believe in and feel good about, because you just witnessed evidence of them.
Over time, these smaller affirmations will attract larger things to be grateful for and affirm. Start by affirming what you are already thankful for before you move forward to bigger and better.
With Much Appreciation,